Breathe.

—————————————————————-

I recently picked a new primary care physician. After two visits and exhaustive lab tests, he said I was doing “fairly well” for my age. A little concerned about that comment, I couldn’t resist asking him, “Do you think I’ll live to be 80?”

He asked, “Well, do you smoke tobacco or drink beer/wine?”

“Oh no,” I replied. “I’ve never done either.”

Then he asked, “Do you eat rib-eye steaks and barbecued ribs?”

I said “No, I’ve heard that all red meat is very unhealthy!”

“Do you spend a lot of time in the sun, like playing golf, sailing, ballooning, or rock climbing?”

“No, I don’t,” I said.

He said, “Do you gamble, drive fast cars, or sexually fool around?”

“No,” I said. “I’ve never done any of those things.”

He looked at me and said, “Then why do you give a sh*t if you live to be 80?”

—————————————————————-

While this joke may not have the best advice on how to live your life, it does make a very valid point. The message is simple: Live a little.

Don’t take life too seriously. Plan for the future…yes.  But, live for the present. Create some memories. And love for a lifetime.

Vaya con Dios,

Dalton

Advertisements
Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

You.

You are special.

Have you ever wondered why? If you have, then this is why:

It’s…

Your beauty. You are nothing less than the most beautiful person I have ever seen. I’m serious.

Your smile. Rare. Priceless. Dazzling.

Your humor. Silly. Entertaining. Unique.

Your faith. In God. In family. In me.

Your trust. You’ve proven time and again you are someone deserving of trust and respect.

Your courage. You’ve been knocked down so many times. You always get back up.

Your love. You’ve redefined the word for me.

If you are still wondering what makes you so special…

It isn’t that you are the center of the universe. It’s that you are the center of my universe. My world.

Dalton.

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Pleasure.

Pleasure- enjoyment or satisfaction derived from what is to one’s liking; gratification; delight.

Pretty simple definition. I think I can make it simpler.

Pleasure is what we are searching for in life.

Long-term pleasure, mind you.  I don’t think it’s a stretch to say long-term pleasure leads to long-term happiness.

And if pain is the great moderator in life, then pleasure is the great instigator in life. It’s what guides our actions.

I think life is all about finding the perfect balance between these two forces. Not that we should try to feel pain. In fact, you should strive to avoid pain. But it all goes back to that saying about “too much of a good thing.” Too much pleasure is going to lead to pain…. every time. So, just as the drive for pleasure instigates all our actions, so too does pain step in to moderate these actions.

If you drive too fast because it’s fun, eventually you’ll get pulled over. (Trust me, I know.)

If you eat too much of a food you really love, you’ll definitely get sick and avoid it. (Trust me, I know.)

And if you party too much because it is cooler than studying, you’ll most certainly bomb an exam. (Trust me, I unfortunately know.)

The point is, there is a trick to all of those examples. Manipulating the way you see things. Learning from your mistakes. Finding the right balance that keeps you happy.

If you go through the pain of driving the speed limit, then you keep the pleasure of being able to drive. (Trust me, I know.)

If you deal with the pain of moderation, you maintain the pleasure of consumption. (Trust me, I know.)

And, if you go through the pain of really studying for an exam, you go through the exceptional pleasure of acing that exam. (Trust me, I’m glad I know.)

So…how does a person lead a happy life? Don’t look to the celebrities for the answers, as many young people in our generation do. The courts are currently telling Miss Lohan she is feeling too much pleasure. The courts already told Paris Hilton she was feeling too much pleasure. And the courts didn’t even have to tell Britney Spears that she was feeling too much pleasure.

Given all I’ve said it would seem the right answer is that you can lead a happy life by finding the balance between pleasure and pain. But how much pleasure is too much? And how much pain is not enough?

Honestly, I don’t know. I’m still fairly young and inexperienced. I haven’t found the definitive answer for leading a happy life. But I think I’m on the right track…so I’ll keep you posted.

Dalton

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Pain.

Pain is nothing new to humans. We all know pain. It is the great moderator of life. All life attempts to avoid pain-and thrives for doing so. It doesn’t take a premed major to tell you why; the things that cause us pain are those that damage us and make us less whole…less likely to survive, essentially.

But, I don’t want to talk about physical pain. I’m referring to a far different and possibly far worse form of pain. I’m referring to emotional pain.

Emotional pain occurs when you place trust in someone and that trust is somehow betrayed. Everyone has experienced it at some point. Likewise, everyone has caused it at some point. And, just as there are varying degrees of physical pain, so to are there varying degrees of emotional pain. Similarly, the degree of pain felt corresponds to the gravity of the injury. Some injuries are just minor cuts and bruises. You may silently chastise yourself for your foolishness, but you know you will probably suffer a similar injury down the line.

Then, there are the more serious wounds that leave scars. And when you look at these scars you may wince in recollection of the pain and suffering.

On the surface, these scars may seem like an undesirable aftermath of your injury. But this couldn’t be further from the true. Scars have a very important function: They serve as a constant reminder to the mistakes we have made in our life. And the important thing to remember is that you were able to heal. You may be left temporarily rattled and overly cautious-but you are whole again.

I could go on to discuss wounds that range in severity between scarring wounds and mortal wounds….but they are not effective in maintaining the overall metaphor and so shall be skipped.

This, then, leads us to mortal wounds.  The end-all wounds. Emotionally, you can never recover. I can’t go in to depth on these wounds because I’ve never experienced them (literally and metaphorically).

Perhaps, our relationships can be seen in these terms. You get daily scratches or bruises. Of course, you barely notice because the rewards are so much greater than the injury.  Occasionally, you suffer an injury that leaves a scar. It hurts, but you should be proud to know you were not crippled by it. You learned from it, and were stronger for it.

And, in the end, all this pain is okay because….well…you lived. You experienced something wonderful.

Vaya con Dios,

Dalton

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Me.

I should probably first mention that I have never kept a blog before.  In fact, I have never even kept a diary.  I’m in uncharted waters.

You’ve been warned.

Firstly, I am from the South.  Mobile, AL- to be exact. But don’t hold that against me.  I assure you, the stereotypes are very much unfounded. At least, they were where I lived…

Second, I am a Christian. I’m not perfect, though. Not even close.

I’m also a very skeptical person. It’s not that I like being skeptical; far from it. It’s just that I know from experience that what most people will state as fact is simply a statement they heard from someone else that they, in turn, heard  from someone else.  No one ever seems to verify such facts, either. It’s easier to just accept it at face value and not ask questions. Much easier. It is worth mentioning, however, that even though I am a skeptical person, I by no means exclude myself entirely from this remarkably common cycle.  After all, it’s human nature to want to believe what we are told.  But, with only 21 years of life experience I can boldly state that it is your own knowledge and intuition you should most trust.

Now, I’ll go a bit deeper.

I am a remarkably caring person.  As a result, I really enjoy helping people. My biggest ambition is to help people on a monumental, if not global, scale.

I have a lot of self-confidence. Unfortunately, the line between self-confidence and arrogance tends to be pretty thin and I more often than not find myself stepping over it. I think the perfect person is one who is able to find a balance between self-confidence and humility. Terrific leaders seem to possess this calm, reassuring balance. And being absolutely honest….I don’t have this balance –  yet.

Finally, I must admit that I have trust issues.  This became very clear to me this past summer. The good news is I have come a long way in bestowing trust in those I love.  The bad news is it took far too long.

And I think that is enough for now.

Actually, one more very important thing.  I am in love.

It isn’t the “love-at-first-sight”, happily-ever-after type of love. That’s only in fairy tales.

But, it is  the “lost in each other’s eyes”, “do anything for them”, unconditional love that has overcome numerous obstacles and gets stronger every day. The type of love that makes you feel like you are the happiest person in the world and leaves you wondering why you deserve something so special. How did it happen? No clue. But it happened.

Roll your eyes if you must…….I know I probably would if I read this in someone else’s blog.  But, it has had a major impact on my life and priorities and this “about me” introduction would be very incomplete if I hadn’t said it.

Vaya con Dios,

Dalton

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment